When Your Friends and Family Don't Support Your Art
Growing up, I always knew I had a passion for art. From doodling in the margins of my school notebooks to spending hours lost in the world of colors and shapes, creating art was my refuge, my sanctuary.
But when I mustered the courage to share my dreams of becoming an artist with my family, I was met with skepticism and disapproval.
My mother, with her practical mindset, urged me to pursue a more "secure" career path, fearing that the uncertain world of art would lead to financial instability. And while my step-father, a fellow artist, offered words of encouragement, his support felt like a lone voice in a sea of doubt.
Reluctantly, I heeded my mother's advice and majored in Legal Studies, hoping to appease her and find some semblance of acceptance.
Yet, deep down, I knew that my true calling laid elsewhere…
“Porte Rouge”, acrylic on 16x20 canvas, 2024. Original is available for purchase.
There was this undeniable pull… It felt like there was this whole world of colors and emotions just waiting for me to explore. Despite my efforts to appease my mother, I couldn't shake the feeling that I was living someone else's dream.
In spite of my academic achievements, a sense of emptiness lingered, a silent reminder of the dreams I had set aside. The world of law felt stifling, suffocating even, compared to the boundless freedom and creativity that awaited me in the realm of art.
It was like my heart was trying to tell me something, whispering secrets that only I could hear. It was saying, 'Hey, this isn't where you belong. Your place is out there, where the colors dance.'
So in the quiet moments of solitude, I returned to my art, seeking solace in the familiar embrace of creativity. I poured my heart and soul onto the canvas, channeling my innermost thoughts and emotions into tangible form.
But even as I found refuge in my art, I couldn't escape the sting of disappointment when I shared my work with friends and family, only to be met with indifference or lukewarm praise. Their lack of enthusiasm left me questioning my worth as an artist, doubting whether my creations had any value at all.
It was a dark and lonely place, where self-doubt and insecurity held sway, casting shadows over my once bright aspirations. But in the depths of despair, a flicker of hope emerged, a whisper of wisdom that urged me to look beyond the surface and seek validation from within.
I realized that my friends and family were never meant to be my true audience. Their opinions, though well-intentioned, were merely reflections of their own values, not a measure of my worth as an artist.
With newfound clarity, I embraced the truth that my art was not meant to please others or seek external validation. It was a deeply personal expression of my innermost self, a reflection of my unique perspective and lived experiences.
In the quiet moments of creation, I found liberation from the shackles of expectation, embracing the freedom to explore, experiment, and evolve without fear of judgment or criticism.
And as I journeyed deeper into the art world, I discovered a community of like-minded souls who shared my passion and understood the struggles of the artistic path. Their support and camaraderie lifted me up, restoring my faith in myself and my art.
Through their encouragement and shared experiences, I learned that true fulfillment comes not from seeking validation from others, but from embracing authenticity and staying true to oneself. In the words of Ralph Waldo Emerson…
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
So, to all the aspiring artists who may find themselves grappling with unsupportive friends and family, I offer these words of wisdom:
Trust in Your Vision
Your art is a reflection of your innermost self. Trust in your unique perspective and creative vision, and don't let the doubts of others dim your light.
Surround Yourself with Supportive Souls
Seek out a community of fellow artists who understand and appreciate the struggles and triumphs of the artistic journey. Their encouragement and camaraderie can provide the strength and inspiration you need to persevere.
Embrace Your Authenticity
Stay true to yourself and your artistic voice, even in the face of adversity. Embrace the beauty of imperfection and celebrate the unique essence that sets you apart.
Find Joy in the Process
Remember that the true essence of creativity lies not in the destination, but in the journey itself. Find joy in the act of creation, and let your passion for art guide you on your path.
Celebrate Your Progress
Celebrate your successes and milestones along the way, no matter how small they may seem. Each step forward is a testament to your growth and resilience as an artist.
Remember Your Why
Remember why you started creating art in the first place and hold onto that passion and purpose. Let your love for art be your guiding light, leading you through the ups and downs of your creative journey.
Believe in Yourself
Above all else, believe in yourself and your ability to overcome obstacles and achieve your dreams. You are capable, you are worthy, and your art matters.
Today, I understand that the journey of an artist is not always easy. It requires courage, resilience, and unwavering self-belief.
And while the lack of support from loved ones can be disheartening, it is ultimately a reminder that my worth as an artist is not contingent on external validation.
My art is a reflection of who I am—a testament to my strength, resilience, and determination to follow my passion, no matter the obstacles I may face.
So to anyone out there who feels unsupported in their artistic pursuits, I say this: trust in yourself and your creative vision. Surround yourself with people who lift you up and believe in your potential.
And above all, never lose sight of the fact that your art is a gift—a unique expression of your innermost self, worthy of celebration and recognition.
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Tarra Lu
